After conducting courses at the Engineers’ Club of Philadelphia, and also for the New York Chapter of the American Institute of Electrical Engineers — with approximately more than one thousand, five hundred Engineers.
Dale Carnegie was able discovered that the Engineers who passed through his courses came because they realized that the highest-paid personnel in engineering ain’t those who know the most about engineering.
But those who has technical knowledge together with the ability to express ideas, to assume leadership and to arouse enthusiasm among people.
Also in that same book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” Dale again reported a survey conducted by the University of Chicago and the United Y.M.C.A. Schools to determine what adults want to study.
This survey revealed that “health is the prime interest of adults – and that their second interest is people; how to understand and get along with people; how to make people like you; and how to win others to your way of thinking.”
And the best way you can however make this happen is to first of all learn how to speak and write effectively.
If living a freedom lifestyle is all about following your path, and making a positive difference in the lives of others.
Then sharing your ideas, skills, or knowledge with other people is requisite to making a difference in the lives of others.
Because many people have the idea, the knowledge, the talent, or the story that could make positive difference, but they couldn’t act on it.
And apart from reading and listening — which are the receptive communication skills — speaking and writing are actually the two productive communication skills that stop people from being exceptional.
Because your communication skills are what will reveal to people the kind of person you are.
It will help you build good relationships with other people; give you self-confidence to express yourself; and expose you to more and better opportunities.
Meanwhile, it’s so unfortunate that these skills can’t be learned in school. Even if you do, you will still have to unlearn and relearn the ones that will be useful in real life.
But if you’ve read my previous post on the definitive guide to becoming a self-directed learner, you already have an idea or know how to start to build your communication skills on your own, and you’ll start to see result quicker than expected.
I could remember when I started studying the book, “Word Power Made Easy” by Norman Lewis, The author said something at the end of chapter three that I found intriguing. He said:
“I do not wish to press a point unduly, but it is possible that you have learned more new words in the short time it took you to cover this chapter than the average adult learns in an entire year. This realization should make you feel both gratified and excited.”
He was right about it. Because I got to learn some news words that I might not come across in the next few years. The book was a magic.
And that’s what happened when you focus on building a particular skill or learning a particular subject, because you get to learn at a faster rate than you expected.
That’s the power of self-directed learning.
So whatever it is you’re learning presently, it is also important to always make building your communication skills a part of it.
Because knowledge is of no use if you’re not sharing and getting feedback.
And that’s when you can only make a difference.
Don’t wait till you think the time is right for you to start sharing what you know.
Some people would say that they will start writing or speaking when they feel they are good enough. They say this because of the fear of making mistakes.
Trust me, you will never start a thing with that thought. And you will never be good enough.
Now is the right time to start: and you get to learn along the line.
So in the next post, I’m going to be sharing with you some highly recommended books that will help you build your communication skills.
I will be doing this to save you time to make decision on which book is the best for you.
Because not until last week that I just discovered that I’ve been making some mistakes about my punctuations. I used to think I was right until I confirmed it from different books.
And that happened because I laid my hands on the wrong book when I was starting out to learn how to punctuate.
So I wouldn’t want that to happen to you too.
But before then, I would like you to comment below the exact thing that has been stopping you from sharing your ideas.